Last week I read a blog
post a women wrote about how annoyed she was at stay at home moms who complain,
and how we should feel lucky all the time about being a stay at home mom. At first I was seriously annoyed. Then, I was
offended but, then I realized I in some weird way it made me think. I sometimes
complain about the daunting tasks of being a stay at home mom. Sometimes my
husband annoys me. Sometimes I do feel like I am failing. Yesterday my 4 year old took a football and
chucked it a foot away as hard as he could at another boy straight to the side
of the face. It was those kinds of frustrating moments that question “am I
teaching him anything?” “How he could do
such a thing?” Yesterday, I did stay in
my pajamas all day…crap that really happened but, that made me feel worse. I do complain sometimes. Also, sometimes my
husband and I yell and most of the time it is not perfect and all of the time
we are working on it. This blog made me feel that this lady “apparently” more
perfect than others completely annoyed and judging the person who complains
because I am assuming she never has?? What?
This is nonsense. I will admit it
made me motivated so thank you for posting it. I also want to throw out there I
have been the working mom. I had the little boy clinging to my mom and dropping
him off at day care. I have been there. I also have been the single mom trying
to figure out every day how I was going to pay my bills with no one to
rely on but, me. I understand.
We won’t always agree
with people, people have their own journey and walk. But I
think when you get something out, vent, talk with a friend whatever your
venting source is… you either grow or learn from it. It made me think about
complaining and how I should do it less so I honestly am not annoyed anymore. I
liked reading it and have some agreements. But, all of us stay at home moms who
gripe and complain that give other stay at home moms a “bad reputation” I will
disagree. Because the people out there judging people, thinking they are better
than others that is what creates bad reputations. To all the “negative Nelly’s”
and “negative Neds” out there, I think there is nothing wrong with venting
every once in a while because sometimes things do suck that is life, without
the bad days we would not know the good. Without the struggle we would not know
our strength. It is okay to have bad days. It is okay to feel like things are
hard. It’s okay. You are not alone, make tomorrow better don’t judge other
people because you don’t know what their struggle was that day. You don’t know
if depression is something they struggle with you don’t know. Let us not judge
one other. Love one another and have compassion for the woman who struggles.
Maybe be the person who they feel they can talk to that day. Tell them it will
get better, maybe offer to give them a break, all I know is that judging
others, thinking you are better ,that you complain less, your stronger or
tougher is not what it’s about. My challenge is to replace judgments with love.
I promise if you help someone else that downer will be a little less of one
because sometimes all we need is someone to talk to. In agreement being a stay at home mom is a blessing
and I would have to say even on the bad days we would not trade them, even when
children are driving us to madness, and our husbands seem to not notice
anything until it is not done. I would
say that most of us would never ever trade it for the world. The hardest things
in life are usually the most rewarding. No one is saying that. We are being
real and honest and raw and that’s okay. So, to the lady of the posting I am
one of those stay at home moms that complain sometimes because it’s hard sometimes, and
my guess is sometimes you complain too. So let’s all be honest here. We ARE the “most privileged species on the
planet”, I will not disagree with you there, I am content, I love my children,
I love my husband but sometimes I have a bad day. And to all the stay at home moms that do, I
would love to hear about it and its okay I will listen.
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